I have had my share of deeply mindful moments. Today was special. I looked out the window and it was snowing as had been predicted a few days ago. The snow started at about eight in the morning and it was a truly beautiful sight. The thick flakes created a very serene moment. I started getting my camera ready to make a short video clip to send to my grandson who does not get to see snow where he lives. Then I noticed the battery needed charging. I looked outside again and the beautiful white flakes had turned to rain. I had missed the moment.
It is too often that we want to photograph something to capture the moment forever on film but we miss the real moment. There may have been a squirrel frolicking about, also mesmerized by the snow. I may have missed someone looking up in awe of the heavenly white showers.
About a half hour later it started snowing again but it was not the same. The flakes were not as thick. The magic if you will was simply not present.I was so disappointed.
On snowy or rainy days I usually sit to paint or draw. I sat and tried to paint a snowy landscape. I ended up tearing up the paper and doodled instead. I later colored in the blank spaces. The colors reminded me of springtime. My mood changed almost immediately. I had lost that one moment I wanted to videotape but I was able to shift to a new mindset.
Sometimes mindful moments are purposeful and truly meant to help us shift gears to think about other things that help us to be more creative. A video camera captures special moments. Today my special moment was when I doodled my way into springtime. Only about five more weeks to go according to the ground hog. I cannot wait to sit and watch the flowers bloom.
This week I came across a few “feel good” stories about people being mindful of the mishaps and tragedies of other people. They were truly heart warming. I wonder how these events come about. Is it that someone just happens to be at the right place at the right time? Is it a sudden awakening of kindness? Is it accidental? Was there a divine plan in the works because someone had to learn one of life’s lessons?
I believe that we can develop a mindful heart. I think it happens when you are surrounded by others that are constantly demonstrating how humans work because humans have feelings. I think a mindful heart is a lifelong experience. You show up and just pay attention to the needs of others. We see this a lot during disasters, and moments of human calamity.
Growing up I watched my dad being mindful of the needs of others. I remember he would take me to neighborhoods that were run down and where deep poverty was present. He’d donate loaves of bread and other foods to soup kitchens. He never walked by someone who asked him for some change or not offer a smile. He never judged and never questioned. He told me once that it was important to watch people and look into their eyes because eyes always tell the truth about a person’s situation.
When my dad passed I remember that many people came to the funeral service to pay their respects. Many of them I had never seen before. But every one of them had a story to tell about how my father had been kind to them. The stories made me proud.
I believe my dad had a mindful heart. He cared about people. He hated to see anyone suffering. He was compassionate.
I think we all need to look around and be more attentive to the needs of others. These days there seems to be so much bickering about this or that and we lose sight of the things that truly matter and that we need to help fix. It could be as simple as writing to elected official on a given issue. It could be that you become a little more passionate about giving and making your community a better place.
Just think; our hearts all beat the same way. When we are born our hearts are beating and had been beating from the start and when we pass our hearts stop the same way. Listen to your heart beat while you can and know that it may connect to someone else who may need a friend or a helping hand. February commemorates love and friendship. I think this is a great time to start being a little more heart mindful.
It’s a new year and we know that 2016 was a stressful year for many of us. Thinking of a way to manage your stress and anxiety in the year ahead? Practicing mindfulness may be the answer.
via How Mindfulness Can Lower Your Stress and Anxiety in 2017 — Psychology Benefits Society
Every exercise to become thinner, healthier or simply more at ease takes time and lots of patience. There is a certain rhythm and pace that you will need to develop as you become more mindful.
I developed a short-term plan for myself at the beginning of my journey. I think of myself as a spiritual person. I pray. I meditate. I like to read to become inspired.
The first thing I did was to go to the book store to get a few books on the concept of mindfulness. I found several books I liked and purchased them. (I will include a list later) I prepared index cards with quotes and ideas that seemed to fit my needs. Then I started a journal. I outlined my journal to cover a period of 30 days or a month. This is my way of making a commitment to the goal I want to carry out.
I jotted down three questions that I would be obligated to respond to every day. These are my three questions:
1. How were you mindful today?
2. What did you learn?
3. How do you think you benefited from the experience?
I tend to be a worry wart. I worry about my kids and grand kids. I worry about things I see happening around the world. My goal to become more mindful was to learn to become more relaxed and “not sweat the small stuff” so much. I kept reminding myself that in general I was pretty lucky. I am grateful for my life and every day is a gift.
I wanted to also develop my creativity and become more mindful of my poetry and writing. As an educator for more than half of my life, I knew that one thing I wanted to do was to help other people in someway. I missed teaching. I felt I was loosing my purpose.
So after keeping a journal for thirty days I realized that I had been on the right tract with my goals and my purpose to becoming more mindful. What I needed to stop paying so much attention to the news. I had become a news junkie after I retired. The truth is that bad news is what gets people’s attention. I try to worry less and pay attention to living and raising my vibe every day.
I started designing the life I truly want to live. I know I still have a lot of things I need to do on my bucket list of sorts. I discovered I have passions for many things and that I need to figure out ways to tap into the resources that will help me become more engaged.
Becoming a mindful person is a lot more than just becoming more aware. It is a habit of the mind. We all develop habits; some are good and some not so good. But when you set out to develop mindfulness, it is what you do and the way you do it. One has to be open to the idea that not knowing opens doors to experiences that are life changing. Therefore, we must learn to become at ease with moments that present uncertainty.
In the past year, I have had a few challenges. As one grows older it becomes evident that many things will change. For example, it is pivotal to stay healthy. We will need a better health plan that perhaps covers non-traditional coverage such as gym memberships or alternative medicine. Yet so many of us older citizens are at risk of loosing benefits. The uncertainty of whether or not we will be able to afford health care in the future is a great concern for many people.
Becoming more mindful under these and other life’s pressures can be difficult. Confidence in how you deal with a challenge is very important. The first action is to release any fears or stress factors associated with the challenge. The next action is to make sure that you have a support group or team that will allow you to focus on your goals. Write down your purpose for becoming more mindful. Get rid of any distractions. Stay focused and never give up. Learn meditation techniques. A continuous action is accept that sometimes a plan can go wrong. Learn to accept that sometimes we need change first.
Mindfulness can become a habit of the mind once we learn how to structure the routines of our lives and live in the moment.
Mindfulness requires clarity. We all need clarity in order to focus. These days I am trying to stay as positive as I can. Too many negative news interferes with the streaming of positive thoughts. This may be a result of conflicting reports or confusion about what it true or distorted.
When you want to become more mindful then clarity of thought must be present. Clarity is the best path to a mindful existence.
One way to begin on a clear path is to drop some of the heavy luggage we fill with social media posts, text messages, and other forms of communication. It is a way to detox.
Visualization is a great way to gain clarity. I try to visualize myself swimming down a stream or small fall of clear or crystal like water. Water cleanses the body inside and out. I sit in front of a large pitcher of water and try to think about or focus on the blessings present in my life. I take relaxing breaths. I may even listen to the sounds of a waterfall or the ocean waves and imagine myself there in their midst. I then focus on one or two things that bring me joy. For example, I may focus on my grand-daughter contagious smile. That is a sure path to make my day and put me in a good mood. Sometimes I may focus on a clear and straight path to a goal for the day or in the long-term. I try to estimate the steps I will need to take to reach a given goal. But do not hesitate to change the number of steps or to restate the goal you set.
Another strategy to achieve clarity and ultimately become more mindful would be to write the things or obstacles you know might get in the way of achieving true clarity and then cross them out or erase each one. As you erase each obstacle you might want to say each one out loud or simply say go away. This may sound a little silly but it works. I also read the list of obstacles and shake my head “no”.
Clearing you thoughts of the negative things you hear and see every day is good practice to develop mindfulness and to be happier. The idea is to know that it is a process of mindsets.
I think that most people would agree that there is something wonderful about the aroma of fresh coffee. This morning I decided I would pay more attention to my morning ritual of preparing the first cup of morning Joe or Java. I love language so I also looked up synonyms for coffee. Most of them are slang; I never knew that coffee could be “brain juice”. C8H10N4O2 is actually the representation of the coffee molecule. I delved a little more into the secret life of the coffee bean.
I learned so much about the fabulous “energy bean” and the information inspired me to be even more mindful of the process I go through every morning. I went to a local department store and counted at least 15 different kinds and types of coffee makers. It is truly mind-boggling. I remember when my father brought home a coffee pot for me to give my mom one Mother’s Day. It was blue enamel ware and my mother loved it. I actually bought one similar to that one a few years back at an antique shop. It brought back so many memories. But before that my mother would simply boil water, add a few tablespoons of ground Espresso coffee and use a cloth colander as a filter as she poured her dark morning juice over frothed whole milk. I have not tasted coffee like hers ever. Everyone loved her coffee. So I have been very mindful of trying to recreate her cup of early morning brew.
I ground the beans first and the aroma wakes me up a little. I froth the milk. Today I used a French press but I have two electric percolators, three different sized French presses, one Italian Espresso coffee pot and yes a white cone-shaped cloth colander like the one my mom used. It is brand new because I do not want it to get stained and because I know that at some point I will not be able to find another one like it.
I want to get a manual hand grinder. I use an electric one and it is loud. The milk frother is also a little loud but it is worth it because it does such a great job. Both the milk and the coffee have to be almost as hot. I pour the coffee over the frothed milk, add coconut palm sugar, and sprinkle cinnamon.
I try to sip slowly and I look out the bay window in my kitchen as I watch the birds frolic from tree limb to tree limb. The sun shines through that side of the house in the morning and I always find the shadow of something or other.
I watch as my husband dips his toast or crackers in his cup. He always exclaims that the coffee is perfect. I can almost hear my dad’s voice saying the same thing. Its was a very mindful morning coffee time.
Here are some links that might interest those of you who love coffee.
Coffee Pots and Makers
The Origin of Coffee
The Long History of the Espresso Machine
Happy Coffee Time!!!!