Where are you going?

My mother always answered that question a tad sarcastically. I guess she figured we as children had no business asking her where she was going. Her response was in Spanish and it may also be that the question itself may be interpreted differently when asked in Spanish. Her response, “To be old” (in Spanish – “Para vieja”) meaning there was no other alternative. We are all going to get or be old.

I think about her repeated answer more now that I am older and a grandmother. But I do not really think of myself as being any older. I know I have matured but I think I still think like a younger person. When I was younger I always wanted to be older. I could not wait to be eighteen then I could not wait to be twenty-one. Now I think about why I was in such a rush and I wish I were twenty-one again. But knowing what I know now, of course.

I came across this quote by Eddie Cantor that young people in a rush should think about.

“Slow down and enjoy life. It’s not only the scenery you miss by going too fast – you also miss the sense of where you are going and why.”

This thought made me reflect on what I may have missed as I was such in a rush to be older. I was not mindful of the now and present at that time. I missed almost a decade thinking about what tomorrow would bring and forgot to live in the present. It seems that for a long time, life passed me by while I was paying attention to nothing really.

Practicing mindfulness helps to slow down and enjoy life. It helps you to appreciate the moment, the present.

Here are a few exercises to get you into the rhythm of the moment.

  1. What happened today that made you happy?
  2. What distracted you from doing something enjoyable?
  3. What color was the sky just before sunset?
  4. Did you experience any synchronicity today?
  5. Pick a flower you love; examine it and describe it.

I would love to hear about your experiences and get feedback. Happy trip to wherever and take it slow!


Mindful Pondering

“In this very breath that we take now lies the secret that all great teachers try to tell us.”

                                                                – Peter Matthiessen

Spotlight on your breathing:

  • It is important to focus on your breathing every chance you get to be still
  • Find a quiet stop and take deep cleansing breaths
  • Be mindful of the moment
  • You may want to select something to be the focal point
  • Focus and notice the inhale and exhale cycles
  • You may want to count your breaths
  • Conclude your breathing session with an affirmation
  • Write down your thoughts about the experience and note the levels of calmness




Mindful Message

Dear Readers,

I was forced to take some time off from posting on a regular basis. I appreciate your support and hope to get back on a regular schedule of posts. You can expect to read posts three times a week. I will share my ideas and insights about becoming more mindful. I hope you join me on my journey to a more still, purposeful and mindful place.

Peace and Stillness,

Melba Christie


I found myself looking at this bookend I was dusting off as I was reorganizing my library. I thought about all the tragedy recently. I was hoping not to let negative feelings take over but we have had our share of crazy unstillness lately. I think I just made up a word. I realized that I needed to ease up and also figure out on how to help others regain ease and peace.

I sometimes have to talk myself into staying focused and on track with my goals. I remind myself that only I can simplify my commitments so I am not so overwhelmed. I have to work on being mindful of the daily distractions.

I looked at this jester type figure and focused on finding something comical or funny to get myself relaxed.  I picked up some joke books and had some hearty laughs. Afterwards I was able to fight off  the distractions and stay focused and still.

What do you do to stay focused and mindful? I would love to hear from you.